Most seafarers will, at some point of time in their tenure, feel that they’ve made the biggest mistake of their lives by choosing a career at sea. It could be multiple machinery breakdowns that lead to negative thoughts or it could be due to the demanding schedule of the vessel that leaves no time for anything other than work. Even missing family members and feeling homesick can bring out such feelings.
I such situations, how does one prepare himself to stay relaxed, motivated and focussed during such times?
Over the years, I discussed this topic extensively with several seafarers – both experienced and freshers.
Let’s take a look at some of the most common things seafarer can do to beat stress and stay focused on board ships:
Exercise – Almost everyone I spoke with felt that exercising is the best way to beat stress and stay motivated. Now before you dismiss this point by saying that you do not have enough time to exercise, we clarify that by exercising, we do not mean that one needs to spend hours at the ship’s gym and build 18 inch biceps. Exercise could be anything that makes you sweat outside of work. A quick 20 minute run on the treadmill could do the trick for some while pumping iron for 30 minutes could work too. Even a quick 10 minutes push-ups work out can have a great affect. I once sailed with a Second Engineer, who never missed his daily exercise regime in the gym. I asked him how he could have the energy to work out after spending 8 gruelling hours in extremely hot conditions (we were doing the Summer Red Sea run then). He said that physical exhaustion in the engine rooms, needs to be overcome by making your body stronger and increasing the endurance levels. His daily workouts helped him achieve that. Not having enough time should not be an excuse. Even in ports, one can salvage just enough time to do some basic stretching and exercises.
Read a Book– The second most common view held by seafarers in beating stress was Reading. With the advent of laptops, smartphones and internet, you barely find seafarers reading books these days. Even the ship’s library which in the earlier days was full of books is now full of DVDs or glossy magazines at the best. A bit of bedtime book reading can help one sleep better as compared to dozing off after spending time on your smartphone or watching a movie. Research shows that spending time on electronic gadgets before sleeping can adversely affect your sleep quality. Watching action thrillers just before bedtime can increase your heart rate thereby making it difficult to fall asleep quickly. Reading though can be very relaxing and is the perfect recipe for good quality sleep. It can also prove to be very motivating. A friend of mine who sails for long durations once told me that he read Nelson Mandela’s ‘A Long Walk to Freedom’ while at sea. He said that reading about the great South African leader’s struggle and determination during his time in prison at Robben Island made him feel that his life was far more comfortable and that he shouldn’t be complaining about anything. It would be worthwhile to pick up a couple of good biographies or autobiographies of great persons. Reading about people’s struggles and eventual success can motivate you to go the extra mile.
Listen to Music – Now who would argue that music can help you relax. Often described as the elixir of life, there is music for every kind of mood. Be it Metallica for the metal heads, Eminem for the Hip Hop aficionados, Pink Floyd for the Psychedelic fans or even Phil Collins for the pop lovers, any music that you like should be played as often as possible. Research has shown that listening to music has a positive impact on the mind and body and is a great way of staying motivated and relaxed. A Captain once shared an anecdotal experience where the Chief Cook always prepared great food while listening to music on his portable player. But once his portable player broke down. This was followed by a drastic degradation in the on board food quality. The Captain then decided to permanently install a music system in the galley. It was a win- win situation for all. Good quality portable speakers are very affordable these days and you could consider packing a set in your bags the next time you set sail.
Write a Journal – For some people, putting their thoughts on paper can be a great way to unwind and relax. It also serves as a good archive of all the work that has been done and could be used for easy future reference. Many people these days use an electronic diary for jotting down their day to day activities. It need not be very detailed either. Quick notes on your daily activity shouldn’t take more than a few minutes.
Make friends on board: Seafarers share a unique relationship with the people they work with – they also live with the same people. It is in your best interest to have friendly relations with everyone on board. After all, you would not fancy someone you don’t get along with sitting right in front of you at the dinner table. At sea, you simply cannot avoid your colleagues. Having a civil relationship with everyone on board is a must. But it would help you if you can connect well and be very good friends with at least one person on board. Having someone to share your ups and downs can be a great way to stay relaxed. Be it the birth of your first child or venting frustration about your superiors – talking about your inner feelings always helps. Having someone to share your ideas and thoughts with can be a great way to stay motivated.
Communicate with your family: Now most of us already do this by calling up home every few days while out at sea. The lucky ones with internet on board have the luxury of staying in touch with their families more often. Make it a point to get in touch with your family at least once during the day by whatever means possible – It could be a quick telephone call or a short email. This daily ritual of connecting with your loved ones can go a long way in keeping your mind at peace.
Socialise on board – With the advent of internet and personal computers, the good old era of evening smoke room get togethers has greatly reduced on most ships. Try not to stay confined in your cabin after work. Make it a point to mix around and socialise. The more you stay separated from everyone, the lonelier it can get. The sea is a hostile place to work and we all need help often. Being a social animal and having people to like you can be a great way to make your life easier.
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